Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Ummm.. Where'd the Month Go?

Is it me, or did time fly much faster this month than in recent ones?  It feels like just flew by without me even noticing.  What the heck?

A Last-Minute Booking

On Sunday, I did what was the most last-minute Party to date in my nearly 6 years of slinging dildos.  I got a call from a friend and we booked it for noon this on Sunday.   I booked this thing 19 hours before the Party!  Yep, 19 hours in advance and during Memorial Day Weekend.  Why not?

I didn't have any major plans for Sunday.  Monday was the day I was planning to spend eating with friends after all.  And as long as I'd be able to go out to Indigo Sunday night, I'd be fine. 

I'm glad I decided to do it and that my hostess could pull it off.  She asked for a noon start time since they all worked at the same bar and that would be the best time to get people together.  I was worried about people getting up in time since bar folks are usually up until all hours of the night.  :-p

In the end, it all worked out.   8 people showed, which is great considering when the Party was booked.  Her Party sales?  Over $500!  Definitely good for her!  She was able to get the one toy she really wanted at a great discount with her Hostess Credits.  She'd had her eye on a LELO product and I know she was happy she could get it. :-)  Who wouldn't want to get a LELO product for FREE or at a huge discount, ya know?

So the Party was at noon, I was done by 3:30, on the back of a motorcycle and on my way to Whipple Dam by 4:30.  And yes, I still made it to Indigo at the end of the night.  Sunday was a good day.  :-)

"Wait... Aren't You...?"

Still searching around for another dresser for my apartment.  Furniture-shopping can be a tedious thing sometimes.  I moved into my current apartment back in October.  I know... pretty bad I'm not settled in yet.  Sometimes I feel like I don't want to fully unpack (I finally just put something up on a wall -- my clock) because I'm only going to move again soon.  Is that a bad way to think?

Anyway.... I found some sort of open house thing on Craigslist that said they were getting rid of a bunch of stuff for free, so it wouldn't hurt to check it out.  When I stopped over, the girl's boyfriend(?) asked me if I was "Pleasure Pamela".  Saying he'd noticed the magnet on my car and wanted to ask and had heard a lot about me.  And the girl I had met at the house earlier said she knew she had recognized but wasn't completely sure if it was me.  I guess she was at a Party I had done. (I'm sure she would've definitely known it was me if I was holding a "Rabbit". ;-)

Kinda cool when people do recognize or know of "Pleasure Pamela" before they've actually met me.  I guess that means I've done a great job, right?  Oh man, I hope so.  It's really kind of cool.  :-)

It shows that hard work and trying to always do a great job pays off.  I have some really loyal and awesome customers that I'm very thankful to have.  It's a nice boost of confidence whenever I hear someone tell me that they've heard all about me and that they just have to do a Party with me.  Yay!

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Venturing into Online Dating

A few months back I decided to give the online dating world a shot.  Why not, right?

A few of my friends have tried it and are those success stories.  Others had fun with it.  So I guess it couldn't hurt to try.  Besides, I felt I needed to expand and get out of my circle of friends and acquaintances and hopefully be fairly anonymous to a potential date.  As I've said in earlier posts, I wanted to meet someone who wanted to go out with me, not the "sex toy lady", because there can be some misconceptions that go along with what I do for a living. 

The online dating world seemed to be the best way for me to go.

Yes, the sex toy lady went online. 

In a college town, it can be a little tough to meet someone around my age.  And as many of the single ladies my age will agree, when it comes to men our age, there are so many here with a major case of "Peter Pan Syndrome".  I want someone who has their shit together, who can still have fun, but doesn't feel the need to get hammered every time he goes out.  If you're not in college anymore, it's really sad if you're binge drinking every weekend.  Sorry, it is.  It's not my job to play your designated driver all the damn time. (am I bitter much? maybe.) 

And as I've said in a prior post, I want to meet someone who's not intimidated by what I do.  Insecure men need not apply because I've dealt with that before and it's not fun trying to boost someone else's self-esteem when it's only them who can do it.  Nor is it fun dealing with someone who puts you down so they can feel better about themselves.  That's not how any kind of relationship should be.  If you've ever been thru that, you know what I mean.

So this online dating experience has been an experiment.

I had to decide which service I wanted to go with... eHarmony?  OKCupid? Match.com?  Plenty Of Fish?  That one that's been advertised on television using people who weren't accepted by the tradition Match and/or eHarmony?

Narrowing it down, I had to decide if I wanted to go with a paid service.  Did I really want to pay to meet people?  What was the reputation of the sites?  Do I know success stories?  I'd heard plentyoffish.com was where everyone went if they just wanted to hook up.  I really wasn't looking for that.  I actually did want to date.

Once I chose the site I'd go with, it was time to set up my profile.  Was I really in the mood to answer a bunch of questions about myself?  It just took so long.  I didn't post a picture right away because I know some guys are stalking those sites for newest additions and I suspected if I posted a picture of me, an Asian woman, the guys with "yellow fever" would be all over that and I'd get annoyed.  Though, I'd already been warned to expect a ton of e-mails in the beginning since I was fresh meat.  I couldn't believe that I was going to do it.  But still, that didn't mean I necessarily had to actually go out with any of the guys who contacted me. At least I had that safety net.

I trudged thru the questions.  Answering them the best I could until I answered what I thought would be enough to get me a match of some kind.  I liked that the site lets you know how much of a match someone is if/when you look at their profile.  Pretty cool.  I didn't want to waste anyone's time by going out with someone who wasn't remotely a match.  I'd have to be able to get along with him on some level.

Oh, the e-mails started coming in.  Oy... what do I do?  I didn't know if I should be polite and respond back to the guys who took the time to e-mail me, even though I wasn't interested.  I could also see who was checking out my profile.

Here's what got me... each profile has a "what I'm looking for" type section where you enter the type of people you're looking for like age range, distance from you, etc.  I had dudes that were way out of the age range I was looking for checking out my profile and e-mailing me.  Really?  No offense to the older men reading this, I'm not interested in a man in his 50's nor does my profile say that I am.

One cool thing about seeing who my matches are is that there are some familiar faces in there.  Actually, I was surprised to see these guys on the site.  It made sense that we were matched in the first place because we are friends after all, so we have things in common.  Unfortunately, some of the other familiar faces belong to guys I would never want to go out with because I just don't like them.  Maybe somewhere there are matches within our personality questions, but in person, those few guys are dicks.  I just hope they never see that I'm matched with them.  Ugh.  So there's the good and the bad with that.

And what do you do if you happen to come across a match while you're out and about, especially if you never contacted them and you know they've scoped out your profile?  Awkward...

Then we have those e-mails that said stuff like "hey" or "ur sexy".  Written exactly like that.  I'm not a friend you're texting.  I'm a woman you're writing to in hopes you'll get a response.  Take the time to actually write out a proper sentence.  Sorry.  Those guys couldn't take the time to write to me properly, so I couldn't take the time to respond.

I decided to be nice and respond to a few e-mails to be friendly.  Oh, big mistake.  Some of those guys just kept e-mailing me.  A couple keep coming back to my profile on a regular basis.  Nothing's really changed, buddy.  I'm not interested.  That's why you haven't heard from me.  I've even had one guy get super creepy. He knew who I was but never mentioned how I might know him and kept sending me e-mails about my pictures.  Creeper.... :-/

And then along come those guys who e-mail me even though our match rating is less than 20%.  Ummm... is your idea of a good date fighting the whole time?  Not mine.

I've had one guy ask me to meet up with him after just three very short e-mails.  Seriously, our e-mails were very short -- two sentences at most -- and he wanted to meet up when he lives over an hour away?  Excuse me?  I wasn't comfortable to meet in person at that point.

This online dating this was not going well. But then again, I wasn't really letting it happen.

I did end up going on at least two dates.  The one went fairly well, but I wasn't feeling it even though our e-mails were great.  The other, I thought he was a nice guy, but he was more than 10 years younger than me and I probably would've strangled him at one point.  Ugh.  Yeah, I'm a tad cynical.

A few tips for this online dating thing, especially if you want a response from a woman:
  • I know it's a "put your best face forward" sort of thing when you're posting pictures to your profile, but make sure that picture looks like YOU.  Present day you.  Not 5 years ago you.  Some of the guys I met in person did NOT look like the photos they posted.  Come on.  I couldn't recognize the one when we were meeting up for our date.  My photo is from January of this year.  I'm smiling. I look like most of my candid pictures.  And POST A PHOTO.  Profiles without photos don't get a second thought from me.
  • When it comes to your profile picture, SMILE.  You want to look approachable, don't you?  I've seen too many where the guy just looks like a child molester or potential stalker.  Goofy photos are fine in my book cuz it looks like you know how to have a good time.  That scowling glare you're giving the camera (you might think it's sexy, but it doesn't look sexy to me) or the really bad webcam photo isn't doing you justice.  It's online dating... photos are a big part of your profile.  I admit that I look at a profile's photo first and then read the info.  I have to be attracted in some way to someone if I'm going to date them.  That's just how it is.  But, I've spotted some really good-looking men on the site, checked out their profiles and passed on them because we were in no way a match.
  • Another photo thing... Do NOT have a picture of you and some woman getting really cozy.  You're on the site to meet a woman, right?  That woman is most likely looking for a man who's single and available.  A photo of you and some chick kissing you, in bed with you, snuggling up to you, or whatever is NOT attractive.  It makes you look like you're a player.  If that's what you're trying to go for, make sure you're contacting a woman who's looking for the same.
  • Contact a woman who has similar interests as you and has similar "looking for" stats.  My profile says I don't want kids.  I just don't.  And I have dudes with kids e-mailing me?  I don't want kids of my own, and right now, I don't want anyone else's either.  That's too much to take on for me right now.  Sorry.
  • Take into consideration the username you select.  Names like "Doctor69" or "CougarChaser" are... I'll just leave it at that.  And I've come across too many "HotWhatHisNames" that weren't hot in my book.  Hopefully they're hot to someone else.
  • When you're entering info into your profile, I've found that if you write something like "I'm not looking for... ", if your site sends you potential matches, it's going to send you what you said you didn't want.  Weird, huh?  Kind of like how the Law Of Attraction works: if you focus on what you don't want, it's going to give you more of that because it doesn't recognize the "don't", it just hears the object that you didn't want.  Apparently, dating websites work that way, too.
  • When you're e-mailing a woman, take the time to actually write out proper sentences.  You don't need to have your Master's or anything, I just hate those damn text-like messages.  I've said it already and I'll say it again, test-like messages don't get my time because they couldn't take the time to actually write.  And please write more than just "Hey" or "What's up".  Really?  Are we back in junior high?
  • If a woman hasn't contacted you in weeks/months, you can probably take that as she's not interested.  Repeatedly going back to check out her profile only makes you look like a creeper if she can see that you've been looking.  I know it sounds mean, but whenever I see that on my profile from a couple of the same dudes, my eyes roll. 
The tips above can also be totally applied to women.  Ladies, we are not exempt.

I know dating can be a daunting thing, especially if you haven't been in the world for a while and I give props to the men who reach out and make contact first.  It takes balls.  We're still wired to think that it's the guy's job to make first contact.  We're just so used to it.  So when men take the initiative, they take that risk that they could be rejected.  That's probably why I haven't outright told a guy on the site that he didn't have a chance in the world.  But then again, I tried to be nice by responding and all it got me was hangers-on.

I initially wanted to blog about the entire experience, but since I didn't give it a go like I hoped I would, I can't.

I've come to realize that I don't really feel like dating.  If I happen upon a man who sparks my interest, then maybe... Sounds a lot like how I ended my other post about being set up by my friend, huh?

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Toyfriend's "Mystic"

I've done a little write up of "Mystic" from Toyfriend if you'd like to check it out on Tumblr here.

Setting Me Up...

I love my friends.

I love that I can count on them.  Well, most of them.

And I love that they like me so much that they want to set me up with one of their friends because they want me to be in a happy and healthy relationship.  (Or according to a couple, at least fucking the people that they can't so they can live vicariously thru me).  I appreciate their thoughtfulness and I'm grateful for them and their attempts.

But, I would hope that some know me well enough to know what type of guy to try to set me up with.  Sometimes I have to wonder when I hear the description of their "awesome buddy".  "Do you really think he'll make it thru the night without me strangling him?" is a thought that goes thru my head sometimes.  It's either that or "Uhhh... do you even know me??"

I know this is the longest that I've been single, but I really don't miss the relationship thing.  And I have some great friends in my life who had been single for even longer than this and they're still alive, normal, and happily in awesome relationships.  If I meet the right guy, I could reconsider the whole relationship thing.  You never know.

I really do appreciate my friends for even thinking of me and for wanting to set me up with their friends.  That means something to me.  It's like they think that we're matches for each other and we really would have a great time.  Cuz who wants to be the friend who set their other friend up with a shitty date, right?

I want and like this time to myself.  That's how I feel.  And like I've said before, I just can't be bothered to try to date these days.  I can't even be bothered to have sex!  Whoa.  Did I really just say that?  Yeah, I did.  I've got my toys, after all.  And if I meet someone really awesome, I could set the toys aside... for a little while anyway.

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

"Rocki Whore Picture Show", a Hardcore Parody

This past Friday morning, I leapt out of bed when I heard what I thought was the UPS truck... At 9:30 in the morning!

And what in the world could have gotten me up so early in the day? Yes, porn gets me out of bed. :-p


Why, the delivery of copy of my own copy of "The Rocki Whore Picture Show" of course!

I've known about "Rocki Whore" since attending the AEE back in January. When I spotted the banner for it, all I could think was, "It took them long enough!" I kind of wonder why it took so long. I couldn't wait to get home to tell everyone about it. I have many "Rocky Horror"-loving friends.

I'm actually sitting here watching the DVD's special features disc as I write this up! I'm such a nerd, I got so excited to see a second disc devoted to the Special Features!

I was initially going to get a group of my friends together to do a group viewing but I'm really not sure how many of my friends would want to watch porn amongst friend -- there may be a handful. And then trying to get a group organized, that's a whole other mess. So, I decided to watch it on my own this round. I just couldn't wait!

I have to admit, I was a little worried because some of the porn parodies I've seen were pretty bad. Oh Wicked Pictures, this is awesome!

So me, being the nerdy movie person that I am, I had to check out the box art -- front and back with some naughty pics AND flipping it open to find the really naughty, not for those under 18, pics. When did porn get all fancy shmancy? I like it. And 2 DISCS!

Popped in the first disc and the menu comes up after some other info on pirating, etc. And I really enjoy the menu! The minute "Frank" comes up on the screen and starts talking, I laugh because it sounds A LOT like "Frank" from "Rocky Horror". 

Here's the thing, I know that porn parodies aren't going to be exactly like the movies they are parodying and I had to wonder how close director Brad Armstrong was going to get. While watching the first few minutes of the movie, I knew he wouldn't let me down.

I could tell that the actors had done their research on the roles they were playing. Randy Spears as "Stiff Staff" was awesome. "Frank 'N Beans" I loved of course. Mac Turner, the man behind Frank, is the porn version of Tim Curry's Frank. I wanna know how many times he watched the original to get Frank's style down. Elektra Blue is a great "Euphoria".  Jessica Drake makes an adorable Janet (she plays sweet really well).  Seriously, everyone was fantastic. Even Ron Jeremy is in the cast! Should I admit I've never seen him in a movie yet?

So how does one really review sex scenes in porn? I'm totally just winging it right now. I can tell you that the scene length felt right to me and everyone looked like they were enjoying themselves. My thing is, I want to watch porn where everyone looks like they're having fun and getting off. Nothing turns me off more than watching a movie where it looks like the actress does NOT want to be there or she's being forced to do something, ya know? It just kills the mood. That's not what a porn is suppose to do after all, right?

There's definitely the spectrum of scenes -- girl/girl, guy/girl, DP, anal, 2 girls/1 guy, toys, orgy... yep, I'd say that's a good variety. If only there was a guy/guy scene as the original film does in silhouette, but I get it. It's a "straight" movie, so I'll just imagine it. *sigh*

If I wasn't watching this for "homework", I would've been turned on even more. I'll be watching it again soon for my sheer enjoyment. Don't you worry.

Wicked's contract ladies do a wonderful job. This was my first time seeing ANY of them in a movie. I know, I'm really behind on the porn viewing. It's funny because I met Jessica Drake at AEE before seeing her naked. Isn't it usually the other way around? The Wicked men did a fantastic job as well. And I'm going to say it again, Mac Turner does an excellent job as "Frank". Total props to him!
Anyway...

Yes, there is singing. And the music is really close to the orginal -- for a porn parody. I know I'd have trouble trying to come up with lyrics to go with music that sounds similar to the "Rocky Horror" tunes.

I really had a great time watching this movie! It went beyond my expectations. I can't tell you how many times I had a shitty grin on my face because this movie made me happy.

And then onto Disc #2! Oh man... great menu again. The best way for me to describe it is it's like the DVD menu for "Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle". The characters talk to the audience and amongst themselves, being more interactive. I had to make myself sit thru them entirely without making a selection. Do you know how hard that can be? I wanted to get thru all of the features, but I didn't want to miss out on this menu. I'm such a nerd.

Let's talk about the selection of Special Features! There are more than a handful! Maybe to handfuls? Definitely enough for that second disc. I am so that nerd who watches nearly all of the bonus features on a DVD or Blu-Ray. I enjoy all of that behind-the-scenes stuff. "Rocki Whore" gives me plenty -- bloopers, auditions, makeup, interviews, etc. Love it! Plus, I've always wanted to see bloopers for a porn flick. :-p

What can I say? I loved it! And if you're a "Rocky Horror Picture Show" fan, this is a must-have for your collection.

Go out and get your own copy! If you're a local, you can pick up your copy at Playtime Boutique. I think I asked them enough times that they ordered copies in before they usually would. I didn't want anyone in town to miss out on it. If they don't see it, how can they buy it, right? Yay! If you'd like to get it online, you can order it thru Adult DVD Empire.

**On a side note, Wicked Picktures is touted as being the only major adult studio producing condoms-only films and I totally support that. I admit, I as a little surprised when I spotted a condom, but it was a pleasant surprise. Yay, Wicked!**

Monday, May 16, 2011

Picking my Toyfriend


I've been trying to figure out which Toyfriend is truly mine. My first Toyfriend was "Mystic" because of how we met, but other Toyfriends have entered my life since.

So far, I've been getting to know "Mystic" and "Coney". I'm going to keep experimenting and I'll let you know what I think of them. ;-)


~ Pleasure Pamela
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Friday, May 13, 2011

The nerd in me

This past weekend was the 50th Annual AAUW Used Booksale and the bookworm in me gets so excited for it every year! 
Well over 100,000 books to choose from and all were DONATED over the year. Yep, what do people do when they're done with a trashy romance novel or sci-fi? Donate it! Especially if it's been passed down enough.
I made out like a bandit going on full-price day, 1/2-price day, AND Bag Day ($5 per bag of books). In total, I got over $750 worth of books for $50! Woo hoo!

I spent quite a bit of time in the Business & Economics section. Most of the paperbacks I bought will be sent overseas to troops so they have something to read if they have the downtime and want to escape to a different world.

Seeing all of those romance novels kind of makes me want to write a couple. I guess you can really only read it once and pass it on to get another cuz isn't the thrill gone once you read it? ;-)

Books are awesome. I'm proud to be a nerd. :-)


~ Pleasure Pamela
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Saturday, May 7, 2011

I'm winning!

Check out what arrived today!



I won the jimmyjane Form 4 thru a contest that EdenFantasys and EdenCafe were holding last week and I'm sooooo excited to try this baby out!

The Form 4 is my very first jimmyjane piece. Waterproof, silicone, rechargeable -- qualities I totally dig.

And heck yeah, it's charging as I write this! :-)


~ Pleasure Pamela
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Friday, May 6, 2011

So what are my thoughts on the "n eleven"?

So having finally conquered this incredible piece of stainless steel, I'd have to say it can be pretty overwhelming if you're not prepared for it.

Like I've said, I love stainless steel. njoy makes incredible pieces.

The weight of the n eleven is quite nice. That's what I love about glass and stainless steel pieces.
And as I've written, the "eleven", like the other njoy pieces I own, seems to hone right in on my G-spot and I love that?
If you haven't tried stainless steel, I highly recommend you go with who I consider the best and pick an njoy piece and get to know it. It's a piece that will practically last a lifetime and it's low maintenance. Just boil it for 10 minutes, pop it in your dishwasher on the top rack without detergent, or use a toy cleaner.  Bonus in my book!

And if you go with the "eleven", definitely TAKE YOUR TIME.

~ Pleasure Pamela
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Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Bonus to Having a Ton of Toys

So yeah, one of the bonuses of owning a ton of toys is that they totally keep me out of trouble... *sigh*


~ Pleasure Pamela
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