Some common courtesy please

So this post is a bitching post because well, sometimes I need to vent.

I did a Party the other night and it would've been nice if some of the guests had just some common courtesy for my hostesses, the other guests, and me. That is what is starting this tangent.

It's all about arriving to the event on time.

My e-vites let guests know the START TIME of the event, along with a note to please arrive early so we can start on time. Start Time = when I will start doing the Party. Duh. Start Time does NOT mean when to show up nor does it mean it might start then.

People who show up super-late, hold up the Party sometimes. Or if they show up when I'm already halfway thru, expect me to re-explain what I had already gone thru for everyone else.

Latecomers are showing no courtesy to the guests who arrived on time nor to the hostesses. They're making us waste our time, which in the end is affecting my income because I have to sit there and wait for them, too.

And then we have those guests who ask me to go over the stuff I've gone over already because they just couldn't get there on time and get upset because I won't go over products. "I'm sorry, I've already gone over it and you couldn't be bothered to be there so I can't be bothered to do another demo just for you." I can't waste my time, especially if I have another Party to get to that day.

Yes, I understand that sometimes there are reasons for people to be late and those are the folks who actually give my hostesses a heads up ahead of time and I tend to be a bit more lenient to them.

Oh, and then we have those folks who have shown up an hour late (when they live not even 10 minutes away from my hostess) and then have the nerve to leave halfway thru! Really? Really?? So annoying.

I'm talking about the people who seem to show up whenever they feel like it. My hostesses are left sitting there wondering when they'll show up, if they show up at all.

And that leads me to those folks who RSVP with my hostesses that they're attending and then just don't show. That's just damn annoying. It is. My hostesses and I get ourselves ready for the Party. My hostesses are buying and prepping refreshments for the number of people who say they're going to attend. That's money being spent. If she's prepping for 2o or so people to show up and then maybe half show, that's her money down the drain. If you weren't planning on attending, don't say "yes" and flake out. She's banking on you actually attending. As am I.

THIS is how I make my living. I don't do this as a hobby or a side job. I eat, I pay my bills, I live off of this money.

My hostess is counting on you to actually show up and order something so that she can get all of the products that she wants for free. I always feel really bad for my hostesses who end up with a bad party. I've seen Parties with 15 guests where most of those guests just show up, eat her food, drink her booze, and then leave without ordering a damn thing and her Party doesn't even hit $200! Seriously?!?! I've heard some not-so-nice words escape my hostesses' lips whenever that has happened.

See, I've seen Parties with just 5 guests and sales of $1,000 so it's not just the number in attendance. It's the kind of guests.

They've been invited to the Party to have a great time with their friends, but they're also expected to order something when they show up. That's how these Parties work. Again, my hostesses are banking on their order so they can get their freebies.

So that's my rant. Just had to do it.

seriously?

So I received this e-mail in my Inbox via the online dating site I've been scoping out:

"hey... you look amazing. I'm coming out your way for work, we should
hook up while I'm out there :-) write me back if you want..."

Uhhh... nowhere on my profile does it say that I'm looking for a hookup. Really? That e-mail doesn't deserve a response. Grrrr...

A Birthday Gift

So today (Thursday) was my birthday. 35. WTF???! Where the hell did it come from?? Seriously?!?!

I can honestly tell you that I wasn't even thinking about doing anything to celebrate really. 35?!?! I need some time to recover.

While still in bed, I grabbed my phone and logged onto Facebook. It was really find a bunch of birthday greetings waiting for me. I'm so blessed to have some really awesome people in my life.

I did receive an pretty awesome and surprising phone call from a friend who sang "Happy Birthday" to me over the phone. Made me a little teary because that was something my godmother would do every year and last year was the first time I went without that phone call, so that was really sweet of him.

I was treated to a yummy piece of locally-made tiramisu at my friend Dave's restaurant. Boy, does he know the way to my heart. ;-)

The rest of the afternoon was spent running a couple more errands and not doing work stuff. It was my birthday and I wasn't going to do work, so hopefully people understand. I answer e-mails in the middle of the night, while I'm out with friends and while I'm in bed (my phone is pretty much attached to my hand) so I deserve a day off from all of it here and there.

By the end of the day, I did want to spend some time with friends. Food + Friends is one of my favorite things. So Faccia Luna was on the agenda.

Faccia's vodka sauce is scrumptious.

And I love presents! Who doesn't, right? One of the great gifts I received was this "Love Listography". I love lists. I don't know why. Is that weird. But I also love love. I'm forever the romantic, as much as I try to find it.

I think this book is a great thing because I can actually put things down on paper and it'll help me focus on the things that I do want, along with some great memories of past relationships and loves.

The other book I was given is a book journal -- a journal for me to write down all of the books I read (or audiobooks that I listen to) so I can remember the good and bad about a particular story. I've read so many books and listened to so many that I've forgotten some of them.

Yay! Thanks to my awesome friends!

Oh man

Happy Birthday to me. Freakin' 35....

What the heck happened here?!? :-/

I think I'm going to hide in my hidey for a good part of the day. Okay, well mostly because I'm about to go to bed and it's 5am...


~ Pleasure Pamela
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A fantastic Party quote

I did a Party tonight with a group of ladies and it was great times as usual.

But I have to tell you... during the break I like to take, I overheard one of the girls asking another about the kegel balls that she has, called "K-Balls", from Ophoria Toys. It was something along the lines of "Did you notice a difference?" What did I hear? You're going to love the answer...

"My vagina can choke out a penis!"

Awesome! If that's not a great testimony, I don't know what is!

"K-Balls" or "Luna Beads" from LELO, anyone? ;-)

Amazon "Wish List"

My Birthday is coming up this week. Oh man... the 14th anniversary of my 21st birthday.

Where the hell did the freakin' time go??? Seriously????

Anyway, I thought I'd come up with an Amazon "Wish List". Why not, right? It's a wish list for a reason.... it's like a little pipe dream...

Working on website content

I'm working on the content for my new website.... okay, so I've been working on this content for a long time. Have you seen the site yet? I love the illustration! What do you think? Troy from 3twenty9 Design did the illustration and the company is helping me with the site itself. They're an awesome group of folks!

Check out the website here.

This Dating Thing...

Back in January I'd decided, that after months and months, I was going to dip my toe back into the dating pool. But after just two dates - one of which resulted in me wearing a wrist brace for over a month and the other revealing just a tad too much information up front (including that he had Googled me and found out what I do for a living), I kind of pulled myself out of it for a bit.

I don't want to discuss what I do for living right away because I want someone who wants to be with me because of me. And if he doesn't want to be with me, I want it to be because we're not a match. I don't want it to be because I am the "sex toy lady" for either case.

I began thinking that dating just requires too much of my time. I'm looking for someone to fit into my life with ease. Someone who doesn't whine about my independence, my work schedule, and my undomesticness (I know that's not a real world, but just go with it). Someone who actually likes toys and doesn't think about trying to get me to quit. Someone who's the support that I need and will be there if I need him to be.

Actually, part of me just doesn't want to put the work into dating. Is that bad?

This is the longest that I've been single since I was 17 years old and I've been enjoying it.

Gees, what am I going to do when one night I have to share a bed with a straight boy? What if it's my bed? I like sleeping alone in my bed. I've FINALLY just started to work my way into the center of my bed!

If I wanna get my snuggle time in with a boy, I have a boy I can snuggle with and not worry about him trying to poke me somewhere. I mean, it's nice to snuggle up to someone sometimes.

It'll be back to the drawing board sooner or later... I'll have to see...

Oh, njoy "Eleven"...

I'd like you to meet the "Eleven" from njoy. 2-3/4 pounds (yes, pounds) and 11" long of gorgeous and cool stainless steel. 2" on one end and 1-3/4" on the other. This stunning piece is a monster of a piece.

"For Your Pleasure" used to carry the "Eleven" as a Hostess Exclusive Item in the last catalog when we picked up a large portion of the njoy collection.

I do love stainless steel and was absolutely ecstatic when njoy was added to our catalog! I had always been curious about it and this would be my chance to try it out. Since I've always been a big fan of glass, stainless steel naturally seemed like the next step.

I can tell you that I have both the "Pure Wand" and "Fun Wand" and I especially love the "Fun Wand".

So if I'm a big fan of the smaller "Fun Wand", how did I come into possession of this fine piece of steel that is the "Eleven"? I actually won it at a "For Your Pleasure" convention. Lucky me!

I'm going to be honest with you, it intimidated me. Still does. The piece comes in its own leather clutch for Pete's sake! And it did sit in my car as weapon should I ever needed it. (imagine the headline if I ever had to fight off an attacker with a huge stainless steel dildo).

The "Eleven" has moved from the car to my bedroom and it's been giving me the eye lately.

Can I handle a piece like that??

I've spoken with one of the peeps from njoy and he told me how someone he knows absolutely loves the piece and she gets off so quickly with it.... soooo.... I'm very, very curious about it.

I have this piece, so how can I let it go to waste, right?

I'm going to let it give me the eye for a bit longer and I may wink at it... And I'll let you know how it goes when it finally goes down. I am "Pleasure Pamela" and it's all about the pleasure after all, right? ;-)

Sperm-friendly

I wanted to write this from my laptop but it decided that its theme for the night would be "not responding". I seriously wanted to throw it out the window.

I was finally able to get my uploaded Vistaprint images onto various products for work (after having Troy from 3twenty9 Design send me several versions of my illustration to me) and then it froze. Well, Firefox and then Internet Explorer froze. Grrr... I had Party invitations that I had to send out. Even Tweetdeck froze.

I'm going to keep MacBook-dreamin'. And then perhaps punch my laptop in the face when I do get a MacBook.

Anyway... I wanted to write about a question a recent Party guest had for me the other week.

She asked if the lubes I show (Sliquid Swirl, Sliquid Silver, and the For Your Pleasure Waterslide) were sperm-friendly. Huh? I'd never been asked that question before. I knew they were spermicidal lubes since we don't carry lubes like that because they can be irritating to a lot of women, so they didn't necessarily kill sperm. What in the world was she talking about?

She began to fill me in on her situation: she and her husband have been trying to conceive and were told that for couples who have had more of a difficult time getting pregnant, everyday lubes can be bad for sperm. They were told to use a specific brand that's sperm-friendly. But they don't like it because it has a bad smell. I can understand why she would be looking into other lubes. If something smells bad to you, how is that suppose to help you stay in the mood for sex, right?

I went home and scoped out the lube she's been using, "Pre-Seed" and did a little research but I found a lot of jargon that I didn't get, so I knew I would have to ask a medical professional about this.

Have YOU heard of sperm-friendly lubes? The lubes I show are glycerine-free and some are also paraben-free so they are more healthy for the female body, but sperm-friendly is certainly a first for me.

~ Pleasure Pamela
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Is it a date?

So I'm getting together with someone for lunch today. It's someone I've known for a little while and he's asked me out on dates before -- correction: he's asked me if he asked me out on a date if I would go.

Anyway... I've agreed to go to lunch since that's all I have time for today.

So is it a "date" or is it just lunch?


~ Pleasure Pamela
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Location:Old Railroad Grde,State College,United States

Cupcakes and vibes

Does 2 cupcakes and a milk count as lunch?

And it was great to walk thru downtown with an "OhMiBod" in my hand and no one thought it was weird. :-p

Stopped by "Sugar On Top" today. Had a pancakes & bacon cupcake (my favorite) and tried the white chocolate & macadamia nut cupcake. Both so yummy.

Got to sit and chat with Shaunda, SOT's owner and do some catching up. She's always so bubbly and hopeful. I can't help but smile when we talk. Or maybe it's the sugar high. :-p

If you haven't heard of "Sugar On Top", they were featured on Food Network's "Cupcake Wars" - Cirque episode. Their cupcakes are yummy and I'm so happy to see a local biz get some exposure. :-)

And, State College has 2 cupcake shops for you to experience - Sugar On Top and *Ndulge. Check 'em both out and go to cupcake heaven.

I even got to meet the woman behind the "SleepPhones", which I've always spotted in the SkyMall Magazines on my trips. That was pretty sweet. And it's a great-looking product that I may have to get.





~ Pleasure Pamela
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Yums

Panang Curry. Yummm...



~ Pleasure Pamela
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Location:Highland Ave,State College,United States

Can I have my cake...

... and eat it, too?

I want a man who wants to be with because of me (who I am) -- not because of what I do for a living.

And I don't want a man to NOT want to be with me because of what I do.

Ugh.

I try to stay out in the public eye for work and then I still want my privacy. I don't really like the idea of someone Googling me and knowing the work side of my life until I tell them, if they don't already know.

Ugh. Ugh.

I really do want my cake and eat it, too.